For the groobygirl, spite is not a secondary emotion; it is primary. Consider these manifestations:
The final two words are declarative, almost vulgar in their simplicity: Not "she is beautiful" (too romantic). Not "she is pretty" (too delicate). "She hot" is a physical, undeniable, almost inconvenient fact. groobygirls+spite+in+spite+of+herself+she+hot
The hottest thing you can do is forget you have a body. The Groobygirl is hot when she is thinking about her art, her revenge, her grocery list. The moment she checks her reflection, she loses the magic. For the groobygirl, spite is not a secondary
Spite gets a bad reputation. We are taught that good things should come from love, passion, or inner peace. But history—and the messy, glorious lives of many "groobygirls"—suggests otherwise. "She hot" is a physical, undeniable, almost inconvenient
The phrase "in spite of herself she hot" introduces a fascinating internal conflict. It suggests a lack of agency that is actually a performance of effortless cool. It implies that even when she is trying to fall apart, or when she is actively leaning into the "grooby" mess, her inherent "hotness" (power/charisma) persists.
The phrase perfectly describes the woman who walks into a high school reunion looking like she has been resurrected by pure rage, yet when complimented, says: "Oh, this? I just threw on whatever." And she means it.